The origin story of this blog started with me wanting to inspire others through style and tips that I learned along the way. However, the truth is I waited two years before actually launching this website. Why? I held back out of fear. I knew I had the passion and drive, but I second guess myself way too often. I was very blessed to be surrounded with a small group of friends and family, who gave me encouragement to make my dream a reality and who promised to keep me grounded if things were to become too much. Taking a look back and reflecting, today I'm sharing what I have learned and what I will continue to do.
1. Don’t let the fear of failure stop you.
Rejection and failure have always been two feelings that have slowed me down in life. I’ve learned that I have given too much power to my setbacks, but I will no longer allow them to take control. Not all my plans have turned out as scheduled, but now I use them to grow and come out the other side even stronger.
This is still something I work on every single day. It also flows into every other aspect of my life. Too often I want things right away, and focus too much on my own timeline. The journey to success is rarely an overnight process and the destination can feel like it is miles away. Be mindful that there will be trials and obstacles. You may not always be prepared for them. But, when hindsight is 20/20, you will be glad to see how far you’ve come. Nothing worth having comes easy.
3. Self-Reflection over Self-Comparison
Don’t miss this! Culture has called us to compare ourselves to others instead of looking at what we already have. The only way to have a sustainable career as a blogger/influencer is by being honest and true to yourself, your partners, and your followers . If you don't, people will eventually see right through that and lose respect for you. Being an authentic blogger means staying true to oneself. Personally, there have been times I get great partnership offers and I wind up turning them down because it’s not a fit for me or my brand. In the short-term, it may seem painful, but staying true to my brand is far more important than any immediate gains.
4. Your Inner Circle
Lastly, I have to express the importance of having a strong circle. I have been so blessed to have had a business partner to guide me through the beginning stages and into this year. There have been many times where tears have been shed, attacks from whispers and others judgments have gotten me down. This partner has encouraged me and pushed me forward to continue to strive. They believed in me even before I did. From there my team has grown to friends and family who have through acts of kindness and generosity helped me out when times have gotten tough. To them - I cannot thank you enough or express my gratitude for the constant support. (#DinhDynasty – a phrase two my friends made up, I use to hate it but now it’s a term we use while working) . Who you align yourself with is so important because it can help you grow, reach purpose and live a life that is joyful. I make it a point in my life to do the same for them.
Thank you so much for reading.
Dress: Forever 21 (in store only - sold out online)